Lets share our experiences

Now we are living in a society that demands us certain things. Sometimes we have to do certain tasks that we may not do otherwise. We have to follow certain set stands of our society-be it related to studies, job, or personal life- to live in a so called respectable way. Amid all such restrictions and challanges, almost all of us become anxious and sometimes feel helpless. If you have faced such issues please share your experience with us, and enlighten us how you cope with that situation and challange. The very purpose of this post is to motivate others and help people who are going through such issues.

Feel free to share your experience.

Our pleasure principle

It is mostly considered that the regulation of pleasure principle determines the purpose of human life. There are different views regarding the functionality of these principles. Men feel happines when their needs are fulfilled. However, perpetual presence of hapiness erode the level of our pleasure and enjoyment. Instead we feel pleasure in a state where both happiness and unhapiness come after one another. The latter is easy to get as it can be obtained not only by our own self but also by world and other people. Unhapiness that cames from other people is more painful. 

Clash of civilization and proxy wars

Hunting gave a theory that after cold war clash among countries with be on cultural lines. There are around seven major civilizations in the world. These seven are Muslim, Hindu, western, japanese, chinese,African and orthodox. Huntington further said that these civilization conflicts can be both at micro and macro level. Micro level conflict means conflict between communities and macro level conflict means conflict between countries of differnt civilizations. Many scholars do agree with there views of Hungting. However many disagree with him. To accept his theory, israel-palestine conflict is one of the best examples. Had this conflict  happened between two countries of same civilization, this issue would have solved in a better way. But, owing to the fact that these two nations are from different civilizaions, this conflict has become a never ending phenomenon. Moreover the conflict between west and Islam can be seen in term of America-iran conflict.

Moreover, many people who do not agree with Hungting come up with the view that saudia Iran tussle is one the major conflicts of the world but this conflict is not between two different civilizaion. Personaly i do agree with this mentioned point of view. 

Though Huntington gave an opinion based theory, it needs more clarity and evidence based justifications.

Real development should transform people’s lives not just economic statistics

it is often believed that a country needs to improve economy and economic statistics to bring real development to the country.There is no denying the fact that a strong economy plays major role in taking the country to the height of glory.But, real development cannot be attained only by tranforming economic statistics. It must be realized that real development lies in transforming the lives of people. So, transformation is needed to be made in not only economic but also social and political spheres of life. Nowadys, many countries are trying to tranform the lives of people just improving economic statistics by pursuring the desire to become world’s larget economy. However, the real developmen cannot be achieved until people are getting equal rights, education, food,  shlter, employment opportunities, clean environment, equal justice and protection to practice religious practices.

Too many of us are not living our dreams, because we are living our fears.

Men are born free but are in chains everywhere. Almost every person sets certain goals to make his life comfortable. Our goals are our dreams. every person wants to live his life according to his wishes and dreams. Unfortunately, many of us are not living their dreams but fears. We are living in a globalized world. Nowadays thing are changed and conveyed within seconds. Every socoety has set certain rules for the people. These days, if a person want to have some fame, status or respect, he has to follow those rules. Now these rules have become our fears and we follow them no matter we really want to do so or not. We have indulged ourselves in these fears. We are running aftet one another without realizing and bothing about our dreams. We are so bound in these rules that we cannot live our dreams. In an asian society when a boy wants to become photographer instead of selecting anyother so called nobl profession, he encounters much criticism. Many people follow unwanted paths just to meet societal standards and in turn they start living their fears instead of their dreams.

Do not compare yourself with others.

It is often believed that some people are lucky enough to achieve their goals at a very young age. There are so many people who cannot achieve their goals until they are above 30 years old. So, it does not mean that they are not struggling to achieve their dreams.rather it means that they have high aims and dreams. When a class is graduated, so many of them manage to get job immediately after completion of their degree. Many of them cannot make it at the earliest. It is completely wrong to assume that only those people are successful who manage to get things done at the exact fix time. Always remember that every good thing happens at a certain time. The author of harry potter took several years to get her work published. She was around 32 years old when her work was published after being rejected by so many authors. The founder of Ali Baba was around 40 years old when he decided to establish his business. It is not important how early you achieve your dream rather what important is that how big you are thinking. What you have to do is hard work with passion, determination and sincerity. Do not compare yourself with others. You cannot be any other person. You are who you are. Everyone has own strength and weakness. Everyone is different from other people in so many ways. Be it environment, be it passion, be it his dreams or any other thing. Just decide what you want to get, try to find out ways to be on the right road. Do not bother much about others. if you stop doing work, nothing will happen. If you keep work, you will get alot.

Respecting vote for better democracy

My another article.


Democracy is a government of the people, by the people and for the people. It is a form of government in which power is not concentrated in the hands of only one person. People elect their representatives through their right to vote and in turn expect them to serve them honestly. Though democracy is secure in Pakistan, but the recent wave of political instability has created many misconceptions in the minds of people regarding the meaning and the purpose of the vote in democracy. A number of speeches are being delivered by many politicians to highlight the importance of vote.

It is important to realize that vote is in democracy, democracy is not in the vote.  Democracy is a broad concept. It is the philosophy of life and the vote is just a small but an important part of it. Let us take the example of a car. It is true that a car cannot run without the steering but all of its parts need to work properly in order to ensure its proper functioning.  In the same manner, democracy has a number of aspects. It is a sad fact that many political leaders say VOTE KO IZZAT DO but don’t explain the true philosophy and purpose of the vote. It is not wrong to say that vote is another name of trust. When people elect leaders by using their right to vote, they trust them hoping that these people will work to solve their problems. This trust directly gives a right to the common man to judge the performance of these leaders. A common man can raise question regarding the performance of the political leaders during their tenure.

 We need to analyse who actually disrespects the vote. A person who is elected by votes but indulges himself in corruption and inefficiencies instead of working for the well being of the people is the one who actually disrespects not only vote but also the trust of the people. It is easy to make promises but difficult to fulfill.

During election campaigns, candidates try to convince the people that they will work for the prosperity and rights of the people. Their speeches are always full of promises. As a result people trust them and elect them through their vote. When the time comes to fulfill the promises, many of them do not bother to listen to the complaints of the citizens. Amid this scenario, it is not wrong to say that such leaders do not bother to give respect to the vote and indeed disrespect it badly.

Another point to be discussed here is that many candidates do not feel reluctant to take advantage of the miserable condition of the poor. Some of these candidates give them money and in turn get votes. Such contestants prefer to buy votes rather than getting votes through their performance. It is imperative to realize that meritocracy is important for the survival of democracy in Pakistan. So it must prevail properly. Our constitution gives us the right to speak and express ourselves. So, when people find that the elected leaders are not fulfilling their promises, they can express their disagreements openly. It is a dilemma of our country that when people try to ask questions from such leaders and want to make them accountable they are termed as traitor. Such politicians must not forget that they are supposed to serve the common men. If they neglect this fact, they will definitely be held accountable.

The vote does not give the license to rule as a king or a queen. All the leaders must realise the fact that they are subordinate to the constitution and answerable to the people. The vote is itself a huge responsibility. When the politicians who are found guilty of corruption are asked about their allegations, they take it as their insult and start preaching the notion VOTE OF IZZAT DO instead of telling the truth about these allegations. People cannot decide about such factors on the streets so they take the matter to the court where decisions are made according to the law and constitution. So if a political leader fails to proof his innocence in the court, it is wrong to blame the courts and instigate the people to speak openly against the judges.

Accountability is the beauty of democracy. It plays an integral role not only in sustaining democracy but also securing it from all evil. It is immensely imperative to the progress of Pakistan. It is important to overcome the menace of corruption so it must be across the board. Now the people of Pakistan are well aware of the fact that a strong and independent judicial system can maintain proper check and balance that further ensures better performances of the institutions. The founder of Pakistan was also a staunch supporter of democracy. All the institutions should work together to strengthen democracy as it guarantees the progress of our country. Democracy is the solution of many social, economic and political issues. Recently, the Chief Justice of Pakistan denied the rumors of judicial martial law and emphasized the importance and stability of democracy. Moreover, our army leadership seems a staunch supporter of democracy as well. Our media is also playing its responsible role to make people aware of the benefits of democracy. Now it is the responsibility of every citizen and all the higher authorities to present themselves for accountability without uttering harsh words against the judiciary. The only way to give respect to the vote is in working for the well-being and the rights of people. If any one is found guilty of any unlawful act, he disrespects the vote and the voters.

The writer is a clinical psychologist and can be contacted at annieaman052@gmail.com

Published in Daily Times